Question of the Week: how do you tell someone you're not interested and still be friends?

Stay tuned for your responses...

Reverse Advice Column

The purpose of this blog is to start a weekly advice column...only this time I am asking for advice rather than giving advice...get it?

I spend my 8 - 6 hours 5 days a week trying to solve problems at work, developing reports, delegating tasks, making decisions and discussing with my boss on how to get things done better, and I'm pretty good at that. I'm confident and sure of myself.

However, ever since I became single again, my nights and weekends as a young (depending on your perspective on the late 20s) single lady, are plagued with man issues. There are the times when the issue is the lack of a man and how to get one...and when that is not the issue, it's how to navigate the terrain. Then there are your girlfriends, and guy friends who come to you for love advice. Why? Because at the end of it all, relationships are so unique that my guess is as good as yours.

Yes my nights and weekends are PLAGUED. Don't judge me...everyone I know, single or married, has man/woman issues on their mind. Half of human gossip consists of relationship matters, whether it's theirs or someone else's. I think the universal dance between men and women has always been an interesting subject worth spending time on. And the 50+ hours a week on the problems of Nigeria, Africa and the rest of the world is more than enough to prove that I can be otherwise engaged.

So what qualifies anyone to say they are a relationship expert and have a monopoly on relationship advice? An advanced degree in psychology? Hey, all you have to do is read that "expert's" book and you have that expertise at hand. Many people I know go out and buy such books:

Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus

He's not that into you

and so on.

Those with the marriage experience or the plethora of relationship experiences also have something to offer the world in terms of what works and what doesn't...

My point is this - why not gather all this experience, knowledge and expertise into the best advice column ever, where I post a question plaguing me or a friend and I post the responses on this blog right here, where we can all learn, apply and critique.

The purpose of this blog/column is how to...real questions on issues I (or a friend ;-)) is facing in their lives and have struggled to find the right way to address this issue. I will post all responses anonymously on a weekly basis so we can all learn...or just have a laugh :-)

I hope you enjoy reading this and hope we can learn something useful...or at least stay entertained for the week.